Psycho-rubric by Lara Ventisette
The three most popular successful ideas among humans are: have a lot of money, be famous, obtain prestigious victories / awards. Many people yearn for success and see it as the ultimate goal of their existence; this should not surprise us particularly, since we live in a society that usually label its inhabitants as "winners" or "losers", and not as "satisfied" or "dissatisfied". Success can help in life, but it is often freed from self-esteem and a sense of satisfaction. I interface daily (not only in the therapeutic field) with men and women who, while embodying the standards of success, are very unhappy: they have a lot of money, a brilliant career and a lot of notoriety… but no one is looking for them outside of work, they frequently debate with themselves e (often) they only know the bad copy of love. We can say that these people, despite the success, have very little self-esteem. How is it possible? How can it happen that those with unlimited skills and means have little faith in their worth to the point of considering themselves unhappy? Perhaps it is useful for us to reflect on the concept of success and its definition. The point is, there is no single definition of success, because this is intimately linked to our education, to our values and priorities, to society and the era in which we live. But of all the factors involved, subjectivity has a preponderant weight: that is to say that success, like self-esteem, it can only be an effect of the commitment and passion we employ in doing what is most important to us. If we pursue glory by prioritizing results and not what we love to do, we risk focusing on what doesn't interest us and success, in case it occurs, it will not fully satisfy us. The alternative is to discover how to fortify and embellish each of the pillars of self-esteem (family, lavoro, friendships, body perception) taking care of it with dedication and daily commitment. If we can, we will be satisfied with our life, we will gladly work, we will have rewarding relationships with ourselves, with our partners, amici, family members and (in all probability) our daily life will have the appearance of success.
“Often the difference between a successful man and a failure is not in the best ideas or skills, but in the courage one has in betting on one's ideas, take calculated risks - and act ".
Maxwell Maltz
